Thread: Need help with parent and meeting on Monday

Okay, so I am a first year teacher and definitely will be the first to admit that I do not have all the answers. I have a meeting on Monday with a VERY difficult parent, I am out sick with the flu and she chewed out my assistant Thursday becasue her child had his coat on upside down (the mother got all the way to the car before she even noticed) . Keep in mind that when this parent came in, the school was testing the fire alarms. I have 10 5 yr olds and 8 of them are autistic, I will let you imagine the chaos. This parent made teh remark that "we are not taking care of her child and thats obvious because his coat was on upside down and nobody noticed." Well, his backpack was covering his rear so my asst did not see the hood. This is the first time this student has put his coat on independently. I say great, now we know where to work with him to improve his skills. I understand the mother being over protective but she has crossed the line into threatening my asst the other day to "take her outside and take care of her" This parent complains about EVERYTHING she chewed out the school nurse on Wednesday because she called the mother b/c the child was not feeling well. I got reamed becasue she came in one afternoon and he was eating popcorn (another chillds snack I might add) and did not have a drink in front of him. We have cups and a water faucet, the child is capable of getting his own drink. Now I have to sit in on a meeting Monday and explain to her the situation with her child is worse than originally suspected. I would take any advice anyone could give me.