Thread: how would you handle this ..friend sent it to me..

HAHAHAHA! I'm sorry, but that is just funny.

About the issue at hand, I think if it were me, I'd leave a note on the door suggesting afternoon delight. This way, you're not really saying "SHUT THE HECK UP I NEED TO SLEEP UP HERE!" but rather, "Wouldn't that be nicer in the afternoon?"

You could wait a while and see if you're stamping around worked or not. Then try the note, and if that doesn't work, send another a little more strongly worded suggesting that you are considering filing a complaint with the sup.

Good luck!

Bang on the wall/floor when it happens. They will get the drift they are being heard.

Originally Posted by jennyi

Bang on the wall/floor when it happens. They will get the drift they are being heard.

This is what I would do too. It's the most straightforward way of letting them know that they're being heard. Of course, there are some who get a kick out of being heard, and if that's the case, I recommend some Bose noise-canceling headphones.

This story reminds me of living in the dorms in college. One spring evening, a dyad was going at it in their dorm room with the window wide open. The noise was actually echoing off the quad outside. Somebody in another building yelled, "Stop the @#$%^&* noise!" I thought it was an appropriate thing to yell considering the circumstances.

Originally Posted by Tom in Fresno

Somebody in another building yelled, "Stop the @#$%^&* noise!" I thought it was an appropriate thing to yell considering the circumstances.

Now, over in another thread, we substituted "lemon" for @#$%^&*, so I'm going to employ that here.

Where was the emphasis?

"Stop that lemoning noise!"
or
"Stop that lemoning noise!"

Not that it, you know, matters, but it makes me laugh...

Oh and OP? I would get up and *subtely* stomp around for a minute, if you don't quite feel up to a more confrontational confrontation. If they can *suddenly* hear you, maybe they will clue in.....maybe.....

Good luck

Lisa

Agreed with above advice. Pounding on the wall usually produces an immediate response. Otherwise you might want to leave a note asking if the tenant might move their headboard a few inches away from the wall so that it didn't slam against the wall during moments of "uneasy sleep". Personal comments are possibly a bad idea.
A friend of mine let another friend stay with him for a month or so. During that time, the fellow met a young woman of easy virtue and they struck up an enthusiastic relationship that disturbed my friend's rest. His companion mentioned the disturbance and the young woman in question became even louder in expressing her enthusiasm.

You could buy some thick, cheap throw pillows for the next occasion at an ungodly hour. Pin a note to put the pillows to pad the headboard and the wall. Ring and run.

I would not do that. But pillows or stuffed animals won at a carnival do help keep the headboard quieter.

I'd probably write a note that said something like this: When you're going at it, your banging headboard wakes me up. Do you think you could move it away from the wall? Thanks.
This is one of the reasons I was so glad to leave apartment life and move into my house. The guy downstairs actually told me that he would sit in his closet to listen to my boyfriend and me. Rather than increase my libido, it gave me the creeps!!! I also had an embarrassing experience when my mother came to visit and the upstairs couple was going out it louder than my TV.

My advice to pass on:

I would just go down and talk to him.

Just be polite, the same way you would be if he was playing his music too loud.

Hey,

I have to say, I am laughing right now, but I figured you might like to hear what I've done in a similar situtation. My upsatairs neighbors like to fight, very loudly, at 1 AM. I'm talking screaming, the sound of things being thrown, and then either she kicked him out, or they made up and loud. . . lemoning. . . ensued.

One night they were fighting, again :roll: , and I just had enough. I shouted up through the floor (noise carries both ways) something like "I can hear you!" They still fight, but it has significantly reduced in frequency and takes place earlier in the evening.

You could also complain to your landlord. We had a drummer who practices at all hours, my next door neightbor called the landlord and now the drummer practices on the weekends during the day.