wow, you must be my soul sister, lol. My Dh was also a history major and is all into wars. Everytime we go somewhere near a battlefield, he is there, on the ground, trying to picture how this group marched in or why they chose that particular spot for whatever it was they did.
He is also a pastor (and working on a PhD) so I know the demands of your life. Our children are still small, but we are trying to balance parenthood too. Seems like often the relationship goes on the back burner, doesnt it?
I dont teach special ed, but I do take my kids "home" with me, like you do. Even with all the frustrations, its a wonderful life.
Blessings to you,
PS, Dh saw Flags of our Fathers recently and he said it was actually prob one a girl might like, lol