Parent Helpers?

*Lesley* · 11-04-2006, 06:45 PM

I am completly lost at what I can do about this.

My son has a speech problem, which he sees a speech therapist for.

Well, in his class there is one of the pupils mother goes in to help out on a Friday afternoon. My son has told me that twice he has asked for help form her and she has completly ignored him. Just walked straight past. I know he is hard to understand at times but that is no excuse to ignore him!

When she sees me in the playground she likes to make sure I know how he is doing at school. Great huh! So much for confidentuality!!! She never tells me about anything good he might of done, but all the bad points.

Like :

Ohh, he isn't geting along as quickly as they hoped in his speech is he

He had to be asked several times to go back to his seat, in the end the teacher had to give him 5 minutes on the thinking chair.

I am getting pig sick of it. She is not a qualified teacher, she has not had a police check but yet she is allowed in the school and is allowed to give me negative feedback on how my son is in class :x :x I am sure if it was that important the teacher would come and see me herself.

I don't know what to do about it. She is telling me these things in front of other parents, and she seems very smug when she does it. It is really upsetting me. I am thinking of taking Adam out of school every friday afternoon, just so he doesn't have to be there when she is. He gets very upset over her attitude. He is a bright boy, he knows there is something wrong. He keeps asking me why this certain parent ignores him. I just don't know what to tell him.

**David Chin** · 11-04-2006, 07:33 PM

I am sorry this happened but please understand that the parent volunteer is there as a volunteer. If she is truly ignoring your son, there is really nothing the school can do about it because she is not an employee and cannot be compelled to do anything she doesn't want to do.

If you have a concern about this parent's behavior, please address your concern to the building administrator.

**ettennan** · 11-04-2006, 09:05 PM

The parent volunteer is in violation. She is violating confidentiality. She should not be saying anything about your child or what he does or does not do in the classroom. Just because she is a volunteer does not mean she can do what she wants. Talk to the teacher.

**JohnBoy** · 11-04-2006, 09:28 PM

She is violating confidentiality.

If Lesley is in the US, probably. I think the location is the UK though- it might not be the same.

**Barbara S** · 11-04-2006, 10:01 PM

Talk to the principal and tell him/her what you have told us. If that fails, tell that mom the next time she "evaluates" your son i public that she is not a qualified teacher, she has no right to violate your confidentiality, and she is not to speak to you or anybody about your son. It's called fighting fire with fire....and it is time you spoke up.
Best of luck to you.

*Lesley* · 11-05-2006, 04:11 PM

Originally Posted by David Chin

I am sorry this happened but please understand that the parent volunteer is there as a volunteer. If she is truly ignoring your son, there is really nothing the school can do about it because she is not an employee and cannot be compelled to do anything she doesn't want to do.

If you have a concern about this parent's behavior, please address your concern to the building administrator.

But because she is only there as a volunteer thye can easily tell her what is right and wrong in the classroom. She shouldn't be allowed ot do that to a child. Surely they can stop allowing her to go into the school?

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