Welcome back! I am glad that the interviewing in California went well and am sorry that the Pacific Northwest did not come through. It is their loss.
I guess you have to examine a couple of things:
1. Are you connected to the house emotionally? Does it mean something to you? Is it *the* house or is it *a* house? You CAN live in THAT house and be miserable in your job. Is it worth it? Or can you sell that house and buy another house in the vicinity of the bay area.... and "nest" there?
2. Your family is the only one you have and when they are gone, they are gone. It is a law of physics. You can't get your dad back.... these are the days of your life.... right? Is your family "toxic?" If so, steering clear is probably better for your overall well-being. Do they love you? Do they respect you? How will you feel if you do NOT return to the proximity of your father and you remain somewhat estranged and he dies? How will you feel if you get some quality years with him? Will you be able to assertively tell him that you are NOT interested in any of the gals he has lined up and to GET OVER IT. Or can you be good-natured? He wants you "settled." To him, being unmarried is "unsettled." He worries.... he's a dad. Let him.
3. California is expensive... but your salary should be commiserate with your experience. Most districts, especially those "desperate" enough, will give you credit now for AT LEAST 8-10 years, if not more. If they come back to you and really, really, want you..... ask for your "years." YEARS=MONEY.... Mo' money for California living. You can buy a house (Bay area IS horribly expensive... you will have to look around) and NEST there.... and see your dad.
4. You are unhappy teaching in Texas. You are letting the creative juices be sucked right out of you there. Why sell yourself short? Are you ever going to get this time back? Life is too short and precious to spend it dealing with idiots like your administrator.... the TAAS Nazi.
5. Are there idiots in CA? Oh yeah..... We grow them nicely. Interview prospective principals well, my friend.